I saw somebody answering a question on Quora this morning. (and yes I know, there are more rewarding things to do in life)
The author of this answer described herself as an author, psychologist, and warrior (!) and one of the thing she writes about is relationships.
The questions posed had to do with dealing with narcissists. The reply talked about her own failed relationship with a narcissist. Intriguingly she wrote: ‘He knew I was too sophisticated …..’
Now I find it difficult to put these facts together . . . . . .